Hello everyone! Basically, I don't know, but I need to talk to someone...

1 год назад Аноним

Hello everyone! Basically, I don't know, but I need to talk to someone and since I have no one to open up to, I want to do it anonymously here. I might receive a lot of criticism in response. We hired a nanny when our child was 2.5 months old, before that my mother-in-law and my mom helped me. I'm not with the child 24/7, plus we use mixed feeding. In short, because I'm not with the child 24 hours a day, I feel like a terrible mother 😣 and I can't figure out if this is normal or not, because everywhere on Instagram I see how everyone does everything themselves, they spend the morning with their child, walk outside with their child, and spend the whole day with their child. Some people tell me to be happy, supposedly I can calmly take a shower, eat peacefully, what's my problem to complain about, but the problem is that I feel like an inadequate mother. Just a soul-crying post, maybe many won't understand me.

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Supermoms

Dear, don't worry and don't compare yourself to others. Every family is unique and every mother raises her child in her own way. It's important that you feel comfortable and confident in your actions. Having a nanny is normal; many families use their services to have the opportunity to rest and take care of themselves. The main thing is that you love your child and take care of them. Don't be too hard on yourself, give yourself the right to rest and self-care. Everything will be fine, trust your feelings and intuition.

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Kateryna

3г11м 1г6м 1г6м

Oh my God, I'm not alone, thank God 😅 I have a nanny living with me 24/7, imagine how I feel 🤪 But on the other hand, truly thank the Lord that she's here ☀️ because otherwise I would have perished

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Кристина

4г10м 1г7м

Take him and spend a day with him, go for walks, play. I don't see a problem if you want to spend more time with him. Unless, of course, it's about work. Or comparing with others. Supposedly everyone does it, but it's not the same for me) It all depends on you and your desire) I currently have a nanny a couple of times a week for a few hours for the older one. If I had the chance, I would have her live with us and wouldn't feel a bit of guilt. Because I'm really worn out with two) so live as you find comfortable and like. Your child isn't going anywhere) You won't be any less of a mother to him)

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🌈Филана🦋

2г7м

It's better to have someone help than to emotionally burn out from the burden. It was very hard for me without help; I was going crazy. If I had the chance, I probably would have hired a nanny too, so that I could get some other things done or have some time for myself. Don't beat yourself up about it; there's nothing wrong with that, the main thing is that everyone is satisfied. Everyone is different and so are all children, live comfortably in your own way without paying attention to others. Bloggers only show the side they want to show, what really happens in their family and life is unknown 🤷.

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Улпан

3г3м 1г1м

I think the amount of time doesn't decide anything. There are mothers who went back to work immediately after giving birth, spent very little time with their child, and raised polite, happy, well-adjusted people. And there are those who stayed at home 24/7 but did not engage in their children's development, health, or upbringing. Therefore, I think the quality, not the quantity of time spent, is important here.

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Анастасия

7г10м 2г6м

The fact that you are even considering whether you are a bad mother already makes you a good mother! Believe me, bad mothers don't think about whether they are bad. You are very fortunate in life to be able to afford a helper, and maybe it's not just luck, but something you have worked hard for in the past - you worked, earned money, got educated, and have a good life partner by your side. Allow yourself the luxury of being a rested, well-slept, and unburdened mother with resources. And allow yourself the luxury of not feeling guilty about it 🙏🏻 we are all the best mothers for our children.

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Айкоша

3г5м 1г5м

I also feel ashamed in front of my daughter; I don't teach her anything new, I don't develop her skills, and I don't take her anywhere. Mostly, I am with the little baby. Our nanny comes at 11 and takes her out for a walk, then they come back to eat and sleep. The nanny leaves at 5, and sometimes she is still sleeping. So after the nanny leaves, I'm mainly with the younger one again. I also don't feel very good. Meanwhile, I work online. The most upsetting thing is that my mom gets offended that I have started calling less frequently and asking how she is. Honestly, I didn't even brush my teeth today😫, I'm constantly busy. I'm just burning out, there's chaos at work, I ask to resign, but they won't let me. It turns out I'm nowhere 🤷🏻‍♀️, neither as a mother am I involved with my children, nor as a daughter am I interested in my own mother, and at work, I am always slow as a turtle. Oh, and I forgot about my mother-in-law; she also gets offended that I rarely call. My health is failing me, everything hurts from head to toe. It's a cry for help 🤯.

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Катя Та

Many moms have such thoughts. And even without a nanny, such thoughts are there. So, it's normal. The main thing is that you spend as much time with your child as possible so that they know you love them, that you are their protection and support. Children grow up quickly. And there's so much interesting stuff to do with them now. The older the child, the harder it gets, so extra help is needed.

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Валерия

3г6м

In my opinion, it's great that there is such an opportunity) moms definitely should have personal time) I try to have beauty days once a week) I take care of myself) I have a favorite body foam from Women's+Jamu. It has a lightweight wonderful texture, it moisturizes and nourishes the skin excellently. It makes the skin velvety and smooth. I bought it at the online store https://aicosme.store and I will definitely order other products too)

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