Hello, moms! I have a delicate question! I've been married for 2.5 yea...

1 год назад Zhazira 2г8м 6м1н Кокшетау

Hello, moms! I have a delicate question! I've been married for 2.5 years, and I was only happy for the first 10 months; the rest of the time, I've been thinking about divorce. Initially, I wanted to leave because of his parents, but once he came back, it was because of him too. We have one child who is 1 year and 7 months old, and I am pregnant with another. There's not a single peaceful day; I'm afraid I'll end up giving birth to a sick child. My husband considers me and my parents as nobodies. Every argument ends with him swearing and insulting me (though it hasn't escalated to physical violence yet). He tells me to leave the child, that he won't give her up and that I should just fuck off. I no longer believe that we can create a normal environment for our children. I'm so nervous, I end up taking it out on the child. What should I do? I'm slowly gathering everything that belongs to me so I can leave unnoticed. Regarding the child, I don't know whether to take her with me or leave her with him and pay child support? Please advise!

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Supermoms

First and foremost, it is important to seek help from professionals - a psychologist or a lawyer, to get professional advice on your situation. If you feel that your life and the lives of your children are threatened by your husband, it is important to take decisive action to protect yourself and your children. In cases of violence or threats of violence, be sure to seek help from law enforcement agencies. Regarding the issue of the child, the decision on who will take care of them should be made in accordance with their interests and well-being. It is important to discuss this issue with a lawyer to learn about your rights and obligations in this situation. Remember, your health and safety, as well as the well-being of your children, should be the top priority. Do not hesitate to seek help and support from professionals and loved ones.

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Катя Та

Certainly take the child. He seems important now, but later he won't need him, and you won't be able to manage without the child. You are tired now and it's the hormones, that's why you have such thoughts. But everything will change later. Just don’t let it escalate to physical abuse, and there's no need to take anything. Just a little clothing and shoes, whatever money you have, and some food. If it comes to physical assault, file a report with evidence of the abuse. Don’t just wait for that to happen. It will be tough but not tougher than living with such a husband. You can file for divorce, child support, and maintenance for yourself until the child turns three years old. In court, they will grant the divorce immediately if you cite moral and physical abuse. Take care of yourself at least so that your children can be healthy and happy.

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Валентина

Take the child with you in any case, it's just your hormones acting up right now, and run away from such a fool, you won't be lost without him.

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Анастасия

7г10м 2г6м

Oh gosh, how can you leave a child, a little girl, with such a jerk???? Can you live without your daughter yourselves? It's a very strange question... Run away from there with your children quickly, it's not far to physical abuse, forget those things. Inform all your close ones about this situation, I hope your parents are sensible and won't call your escape a disgrace and will welcome you in the family home as they should. You need support if your husband is so aggressive.

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🌈Филана🦋

2г7м

The first 10 months were happy, it turns out, until the first child was born? And what are the conflicts about? You probably get tired with the child and want some peace, personal space, and time? Your husband gets tired too. Typically, there's tension until the children reach 3-5 years old; after that, it becomes calmer and relationships settle down. Even without children, the first three years are the toughest because real character traits emerge once the euphoria fades and the masks are dropped, and a common household life begins, and then there are also children, which is not a simple challenge. My husband and I have been living together for 15 years, and there are still very tense days. You need to learn to respect each other, explain things, and talk. It's easy to destroy relationships, but preserving them is a lot of work from both sides. Moreover, you are currently also dealing with hormones, as there are changes in your body, making you more vulnerable and in need of more attention. Calm down, talk calmly with your husband, explain what you want. Men don't understand hints; you need to speak directly with them. For example, say, "I want you to hug and kiss me. Help me, I'm not coping, it's hard for me." Show your vulnerability; you are a woman, and when a woman shows vulnerability, it changes a man's behavior; he wants to protect. Cry if you need to. Don't fight with him, be smarter.

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Zhazira

2г8м 6м1н

🌈Филана🦋 , I've told him so many times, offered compromises, but for some reason he just doesn't listen. I'm not responsible for his perception; I tell it like it is. The last straw for me was when he demanded that I have an abortion (and it's already late term) or a miscarriage. Also, when I went to get my pregnancy tests done, I left the child with him. Ten minutes after I left, he started calling and texting me, saying "don't come back home and fuck off!" Later, I took the child with me to my tests, and since the child is restless and gets into everything, she once climbed into a trash can where there were used syringes, while he was asleep at home! How can I not be disappointed in him? I talk, but he just doesn't care.

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🌈Филана🦋

2г7м

Zhazira , As I understand, are your arguments because of the children?

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Катя Та

Zhazira , He won't change. That's the type of person he is.

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Zhazira

2г8м 6м1н

🌈Филана🦋 , Arguments because we don't support each other.

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🌈Филана🦋

2г7м

Zhazira , It's up to you to make the decision here; you can listen to advice, but you are the one who has to live with this person. It's painful to read such stories; people only change when they themselves want to, and if only you want it, there will be no changes. Nowadays, few people want to preserve a marriage; it's easier to leave, and there are many selfish individuals who do not consider others, only their own desires.

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Гуля

4г1м 1г0м

Why are you afraid to leave then? You are a mother, take your daughter and go. Why did you get pregnant by him again if you are not happy with him in the marriage??

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Zhazira

2г8м 6м1н

Гуля , I'm afraid of persecution, that it will constantly fray my nerves. And because of that, I'm afraid of having a sick child.

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Zhazira

2г8м 6м1н

Гуля , Yes, read my other posts and you will understand. We either compete or argue, which is common in many families. But lately, the quarrels have become more frequent. I no longer see the point in continuing to forgive.

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9г2м 9г2м 9г2м 6г11м 6г11м 9м0н 9м0н

Hello! Take the little one and get away from him as far as possible! Such behavior rarely ends well. I read your comments below, this person clearly isn't right in the head. First and foremost, think about yourself and your children. He is unlikely to pursue you, and if he does, you have the right to file a complaint. You definitely won't have a sick child, the term isn't that far along, though it's already significant. Run while you can, because from those "fuck off" to actual beatings is just one step. Remember, you will never be alone! You always have your parents, your side of the family, your daughter, and your future little one. Good luck!🙌🏻

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9г2м 9г2м 9г2м 6г11м 6г11м 9м0н 9м0н

Hello! How are you doing?

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