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I need your advice regarding my relationship. I want to vent and apolo...

1 год назад Baby 42 Шымкент

I need your advice regarding my relationship. I want to vent and apologize. Not for the faint-hearted. I got married 5 months ago. I didn’t buy winter clothes with my dowry because we were living in poverty. The kalym (bride price) money wasn't enough for anything. I only bought summer and autumn clothes. I told my husband that I need a winter jacket, boots, etc. He said when I give him the money, then I can order them. I explained that I needed to order soon because it would be cheaper, and I have an upcoming ultrasound appointment. He yelled at me for not buying winter clothes with the kalym money. I said he knew about our financial situation, and I didn’t want to take out a loan. I thought he would buy them later. He said it was all my fault. I should have told him earlier, or he wouldn’t have given half of the kalym. He said 50% of the money was for my clothes. Not to mention, the money barely covered the appliances I brought home. I won’t even mention the furniture and dishes. That’s what I told him. He was leaving for work at the time and said I shouldn’t go out until spring. I should have bought everything before the wedding and he left. He even asked on my birthday, "Do you want money or flowers? Choose one. Flowers are a waste of money." Before the wedding, I cried a lot and we fought many times, he refused to dance the waltz and from having a photoshoot. He said no one looks at wedding photos, it’s a waste. At the beginning of our relationship, he said, "Want to study? Get into university." Now when I talk about it, he says he will provide for me, I only need to keep the house cozy and clean. I’ve left many times at night since our wedding, he called and said I could come back. If you don’t want to, leave, you’re no use to me, etc. I’ve cried so many times, he just lay there looking at his phone. Then he scolded me, just apologized, and hugged me. I stayed silent out of disappointment. He refuses to go with me to the ultrasound or the clinic, saying he has no time, work, etc. Meanwhile, he sometimes buys sweets and that’s it. He barely speaks to me for 3 days now. I feel like a stranger to him, if I suggest going somewhere, he doesn’t want to and never takes me anywhere, not even to the movies. But when friends invite him to the movies or a cafe, he will go, of course at their expense. I feel unwanted and convenient. He was my first boyfriend, and I married him. I know my faults, I don’t know what to do next... I love him deeply... But I am disappointed... Should I continue living with him in silence? Might he change and everything will be fine? Maybe save money and leave?... Thank you in advance for your advice 🥺❤️

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Dear, Thank you for sharing your story. Your feelings of disappointment and dissatisfaction are understandable, and it's important that you discuss your feelings and issues with your husband. It is crucial that your partner listens to you and respects your needs. If you feel that your husband is not showing care and attention towards you, it might be helpful to try discussing this with him calmly and openly. Try to express your feelings and needs, and ask him to listen to you. If the situation does not improve after talking with your husband, it might be useful to seek help from a family counselor or psychologist. They can help you understand your feelings and find ways to improve your relationship. Accumulating money and avoiding problems is not always the solution. It's important to find ways to solve issues in the relationship and to communicate openly and honestly with your partner. Remember that taking care of yourself and your well-being is also important. Consider what you need for a happy and healthy relationship, and don't be afraid to make decisions that are better for you. Good luck, and I hope you find the path to a happy relationship. ❤️🌺
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Катя Та
Go to your parents now! If it's like this now, it won't get any better later. Having a child will be even harder. The main thing to understand is that happiness is not just for you but also for the child, and a child won't be happy in such an environment. Your health and your child's health are what's most important. Parents will always help.
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