Hello everyone! My son will soon be 2 years old. Here's my situation....

11 месяцев назад камила 2г9м Усть-Каменогорск

Hello everyone! My son will soon be 2 years old. Here's my situation. We live with my husband's parents. But for some reason, my son is very attached to me. Recently, my mother-in-law talked to me about parenting, claiming that I'm not raising him right. She says he doesn't go to anyone but me and that I've monopolized his attention. I don't know why he doesn't want to go to them. He is in the mood to go to his grandfather and grandmother sometimes. If they try to hold him or play with him, he can throw a tantrum. He will scream for mama. I don't know where I went wrong. He's mostly at home with me. I don't work. He is with me everywhere, whether we go for a walk, to the store, or to visit friends. My husband works, but my son will go to him. My mother-in-law keeps to herself. On weekends, she leaves for the gym in the morning, walks around the city, and comes home after lunch. She might buy toys, sit for 10-15 minutes, and that's it. In short, their involvement doesn't last long. Has anyone else experienced this? What should I do?🥲

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Supermoms

Hello! I understand that the situation might be complicated, but you shouldn't blame yourself for your son being attached to you. It could simply be a phase of development where children show greater attachment to one of the parents. Try to gradually involve your mother-in-law and other family members in interacting with your son. Let them spend time together, play, read books, or do something interesting. It's important for your son to see that they can also be important and interesting to him. Also, discuss with your relatives how they can support you in raising your child. Perhaps they should spend more time with him to strengthen their bond and trust. You shouldn't worry too much; it's important to be patient and find common ground with your loved ones. Ultimately, your son will gradually begin to show interest in other family members as well.

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Катя Та

If a child doesn't want to do something, you can't force them. Either they receive too little attention or they are treated harshly if they don't want to go. The child is still very young, naturally, they need no one but their mother. They're not at an age yet to be attached to anyone else. Even their father isn't as necessary to them as their mother, let alone grandparents. And she herself should have raised her children well before telling someone else what is right or wrong. Do what you feel your child needs. You can never please the grandparents; you'll just end up frazzling your nerves. That's why it's better to live separately.

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Анастасия

7г10м 2г6м

In your post, all the answers to the questions are there - the child is attached because you are the mother and a significant adult; who else should the child attach to, the neighbors? Everyone else spends little time with the child, so no attachment forms to them. What to do? Live separately with your own family and raise your child as you see fit. If that's not possible, ignore everyone else. If they don't understand child psychology and blame the mother, let them read books and broaden their horizons. Wishing you patience and complete disregard for the critics and advisors.

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Кристина

4г10м 1г7м

My eldest is very attached to me. I don't see anything wrong with that. He tells me every day that he loves me. Since birth, he hasn't wanted to be with anyone else. When the younger one was born, he became daddy's boy. But both are always happy to see grandma and grandpa. They run to them with joy. So, try to convey to your relatives that a child is not an object. We want to play with him. He is a person, yes, a small one with his own desires and personal boundaries. My mother-in-law always tried to snatch the eldest from my arms. He would scream, and I would argue. And she would say he'll get used to it now. Don't take him away from me. He turns four this month. He can't stand her. He's scared. I can't imagine the tantrum that would ensue if he had to stay alone with her. Although I always took him away from her amid arguments. But that's how he remembers it.

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Xumor

3г8м 2г0м 4м0н

It is perfectly normal for a child to be attached to you. My eldest is also very attached to me; he doesn't really want to go to my husband's parents, but he is happy to stay overnight with my mom, even though he sees her much less often. It's not about you or the upbringing, it's about them themselves and how they interact with the child. If there is no possibility to live separately, don't pay attention to such words.

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Rani

3г10м

Hello, my daughter is also attached to me, but she also loves my mom because she stays with her at home while we are at work. It's important to talk with children; they feel things better than we do. My mother-in-law lives far from us, but I try to tell her that she has two grandmothers 💐 and she shouldn't listen to others. Everyone loves to teach, but being able to stay with a child takes skill! This is purely my opinion! 😉

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Lea

2г5м 1г1м

Author, you are so lucky to be spending time with your child. We also live with my husband's parents, and my son's grandmother takes him at night to sleep with her. Lately, she has even started to feel jealous of me. I am very angry with her, but I don't want to overreact because I know her character.

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Oksana

You haven't made any mistakes anywhere!!! Everything you do is right!!! The little one loves and is attached to mom, you are the mother! Everything is correct!!! Send the old women far away!!!

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Deleted

4г11м

Is it strange that a child is attached to their mother? To me, it's strange when they're not 🤷🏻‍♀️

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