Girls, help me with advice. My mother-in-law has been bothering me for…

Girls, help me with advice. My mother-in-law has been bothering me for a long time. She's always in my head, constantly telling me what I should be like and how I should do things, she starts listing off her friends' boyfriends, saying they're good, and we're somehow not like that. I don't understand why I have to try to meet her expectations, why I have to claw my way into her perception of things. I am another person and have the right to be who I am. So, I've been putting up with this for a year and a half. I put up with it for my husband, he doesn't even know what happens at home when he'