The baby hasn't pooped for 4 days. I remember that the norm is up to 1…

The baby hasn't pooped for 4 days. I remember that the norm is up to 10 days... but it's impossible now. He's very nervous, and I won't go into detail about myself. I bought glycerin candles, but the midwife forbade me because she said that in such an age babies can't have constipation with breastfeeding, that there are only problems with the vagina relaxation. She advised to smear the vagina with oil and massage it. Maybe I'm doing something wrong? How long does it take and how do you massage? Or do you know other effective methods? I'm already losing consciousness, I can't sleep. P.S. The baby poops, but he