Mothers of 2-3 year olds, how are things going with parenting? I'm wor...

1 год назад Zhana 4г0м 2м2н Кант

Mothers of 2-3 year olds, how are things going with parenting? I'm worried because I can't say no to my son; he asks for toys every day, and I'm now scared to go out with him because leaving a store without buying something for him has become impossible. Every single day he asks for these toys, even though he has a mountain of various toys at home, and he loses interest in a new toy the next day. I'm afraid of his tantrums in the store and at home when I refuse to buy toys. Help, anyone who has faced this, how do you cope?

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Supermoms

? Дорогая мамочка, я понимаю, что это может быть очень тяжело для вас. Важно помнить, что воспитание детей - это процесс, который требует терпения, постоянства и любви. Ваш сын просит игрушки, потому что он видит, что это вызывает у вас реакцию. Возможно, ему нужно понять, что игрушки не всегда можно получить просто так, а также научиться ценить то, что у него уже есть. Попробуйте установить правило: игрушки можно покупать только по особым случаям (например, на день рождения или за хорошие оценки). Объясните сыну, что игрушки - это не самое важное в жизни, и что есть много других способов провести время с пользой. Если сын начинает истерики из-за отказа, попробуйте не реагировать на них эмоционально. Поддержите его, объясните, почему вы отказываете ему в покупке игрушки. Постепенно он поймет, что истерики не помогают ему получить то, что он хочет. Не забывайте также поощрять его за хорошее поведение и за интерес к другим занятиям. Важно находить баланс между удовлетворением его желаний и воспитанием ценностей. Надеюсь, что мои советы помогут вам справиться с этой ситуацией. Помните, что вы делаете лучшее для своего ребенка и важно быть терпеливым и любящим родителем.

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Mishka

3г10м 2г1м

Расскажу свой пример! Я строгая мама, но ребенка своего люблю! Если я ему запрещаю что то не значит что не достаточно люблю, выполняя капризы ребенка вы сами портите ребенка, своими руками, формируете его характер вы, никто другой, нельзя ребенку позволять с собой манипулировать они это очень хорошо чувствуют слабые места мама) развивайте его, с 3 уже можно на разные секции посмотрите в чем его интерес! Дети к сожалению быстро растут и можно упустить возможность воспитания очень быстро, жалея его оказываете медвежью услугу!

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Zhana

4г0м 2м2н

Mishka , Спасибо( он ходит в садик каждый день, а интерес у него только к машинкам… у нас их дома уже около 100 лежат всякие разные. Я работаю и не знаю, не получается ему уделять столько внимания и жалею

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Луиза

3г7м

I thought it was only like this with us, the situation is exactly like yours. I calmly endure his tantrums, letting him cry it out. He knows that he can't manipulate me. But there's a father-in-law in the house, and he indulges his whims. He might buy him anything he points a finger at. I hope he will outgrow this. He will get enough of these toys.

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Zhana

4г0м 2м2н

Луиза , The same thing, grandma and grandpa say they should buy him fewer toys, but they themselves can't say no to him ??‍♀️

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Kateryna

4г1м 1г7м 1г7м

And I have no problem buying things. For instance, my daughter had this obsession; we live in Greece where there's practically a cigarette kiosk on every street, and next to it, there's usually a basket with balls. She just couldn't walk past this basket without grabbing one, but I never expected a tantrum (we generally don't have tantrums over purchases or toys at all; she might only cry if her tablet turns off ?, not without my help of course ? but subtly). If she likes it, she takes it, and every time we would return home with a new ball ?. Thankfully, our dog would chew them up within an hour, otherwise we would have ended up with at least 50 balls ?. Eventually, she just stopped noticing them, though sometimes if we stop to buy water, she might play with a few and then easily puts them back in the basket ?. Then there were tiny toy cars, also from those same kiosks ?, and we collected a whole child's backpack full until she got tired of buying them, but she significantly increased her circle of friends because at the playgrounds she was the most anticipated person with that backpack ?. Later, she enjoyed throwing a coin into the water vending machine and buying water ?, for about 3-4 months, strictly every time we left the house, we would cross the street to the gas station to this water machine ??. Now, she likes buying bracelets. But again, I'll repeat, we've never had tantrums because something wasn't bought; I just wait for her to get her fill and don't forbid it. My child is happy, I am happy ?.

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Kateryna

4г1м 1г7м 1г7м

The situation is certainly interesting at your place, with many factors at play, mainly your behavior. Do toys just lie around your house in piles? Is that why he loses interest in them? I practice toy rotation; once a month, I take out a box of toys that were used a month ago and completely switch everything out, plus all the toys, games, cards, and building sets in my house are organized by sets, everything in its place. If the child remembers something, he runs to this or that room, to this or that cabinet, and gets everything he needs. I don't fuss when toys turn into clutter in the house; they play, make a mess, and then everything is picked up and put back in place, and they take something else.

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Kateryna

4г1м 1г7м 1г7м

So here we are living, the kids have short memories, toys that were hidden a month ago seem like a magical box this month (not just one, of course ???). That's the pile from the kids' room going into retirement all at once ?

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Zhana

4г0м 2м2н

Kateryna , I try to do the same, but he remembers well that he already had those toy cars, shows no new interest in them, and keeps asking for new ones. We have a rack where his toy cars take up a third of the shelf space.

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Deleted

5г0м

I'm not afraid of tantrums) no means no, a child learns the rules well if they are explained. And besides, no one in the store is going to die if your child sheds a few tears out of disappointment.

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Zhana

4г0м 2м2н

Deleted , I'm having a really hard time with this; I need to go to the store to get necessary things, but he's fixated on one place and I can't leave. Now he's even learned to beg from dad, describing which toy he wants.

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