Hello everyone! ? Question for mothers who have given birth ?? Who had…

Hello everyone! ? Question for mothers who have given birth ?? Who had internal and external tears, how long did you manage to go to the toilet on a big one? Is there any kind of help? Candles, preparations etc. I feel like I want to, gas comes out calmly, but there's fear and barrier that the stitches might split... Is there a way to numb and secure this moment? Thank you very much ??