Hey girls! I'm embarrassed to write this, but maybe someone else feels…

Hey girls! I'm embarrassed to write this, but maybe someone else feels the same way. I really want sex right now. My husband is scared. When I get excited, my stomach goes quiet and then I get scared and start distracting myself with something. How do you deal with it? How do you self-satisfy? I used to be able to excite my sleeping husband and do everything. But now I've become so clumsy ?‍♀️