Hello! Have you ever had a child start crying to be held, but you didn…

Hello! Have you ever had a child start crying to be held, but you didn't take them because you didn't want them to get used to being held? I can't do that. Today my husband's sister said I was at fault for the fact that the child knows I will pick him up when he starts crying, and I know about it, but I can't just not take him. He then starts crying not just because of crying, but because he is hysterical, I can handle it sometimes, but the child's psyche would be shaken. Am I at fault for this? Today it feels off somehow, I left the baby in the store for 10 minutes, and when I