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Hello everyone) Question: how did you mentally prepare for your second pregnancy? My first was a cesarean section due to high blood pressure, and when I remember that recovery, I feel awful. We really want a second child, but if it's a C-section, will it only be C-sections from now on?

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Hello! I understand that recalling the difficult recovery after a C-section can be tough. However, each pregnancy and childbirth are unique, and it's possible that your second pregnancy will proceed without complications. For mental preparation for the second pregnancy, you can consult a psychologist or a counselor specializing in pregnancy and childbirth. It's also important to maintain your health, lead a healthy lifestyle, monitor your blood pressure, and consult with your doctor about possible childbirth methods. There's no need to worry in advance that the second childbirth will only be by C-section. Each situation is individual, and the doctors will make the decision that is best for you and your baby. It's important to believe in yourself, maintain a positive attitude, and trust the professionals. Good luck, and I hope everything goes smoothly!

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Катя Та

Hello. No. A considerable amount of time has already passed for you, if there are no indications then they will allow you to give birth naturally.

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Катя Та

The only thing is that it might be different in your country compared to ours in Kazakhstan. Go see a gynecologist and talk about this issue.

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Deleted 9y7m 9y7m 9y7m 7y4m 7y4m 1y2m 1y2m

Hello! Reasons for C-section include: previous uterine surgery, femoral bone stenosis, genital infections, systemic diseases, birth canal issues, and multiple pregnancies. Enough time has passed since your first C-section, so you can give birth vaginally, your eldest will be 4 years old)) Anyway, everything will be fine ? I have given birth via C-section twice, and will do so again this time, all is well ☺️ Good luck to you and wishing you an easy pregnancy in advance!!)

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Анна 4y10m

Deleted, Wow, you have so many little angels)) I am very afraid that my son will be jealous, he will only be 4, but how to distribute the attention if there is also a newborn who also needs care ? I am very afraid of losing connection with my son and missing out on his growing up, or maybe I am just winding myself up ?

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Deleted 9y7m 9y7m 9y7m 7y4m 7y4m 1y2m 1y2m

Анна, I understand you perfectly, preparing older children for the arrival of a brother/sister is very difficult! A baby indeed requires much more attention than a four-year-old child, but the most important thing is to show the older child that you are not replacing him with the baby, that he is also very important to you, and that you love him no less than the little one. You can do this by combining time with the baby and with him. Go for walks together, listen to the older child's stories while the younger one eats or sleeps during the day, suggest that the older one play together with the little brother/sister or even help put them to bed with you, and afterwards offer him a bedtime story, for example ;) Speaking from my experience, jealousy can be avoided if you tell the older child in advance how interesting it will be when the baby arrives, even before conception. For example, you can say that the love of mom and dad doubles and that he will always have someone to play with. Even if jealousy occurs, it won't last forever ? Over time, the older child will understand that this is not "the new baby," but another one, his brother/sister, a friend for life ;)

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Julia 1y7m

I had a natural birth, but the midwife in the delivery room was surprised that I wasn't referred for a cesarean section. The result: internal stitches and three external ones. I am still recovering (one external stitch came apart). If there are indications, it's better to have a cesarean.

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?Филана? 3y0m

There was an episiotomy (they made an incision), recovery took about 3 weeks, I couldn't sit down, it was painful to walk, a hemorrhoidal lump the size of a walnut appeared, which then also became inflamed, the pain was terrible, they even gave me painkillers in the hospital. But some women recover faster after a cesarean section. So it depends on how you look at it, what's worse and what's better. Episiotomies can be so severe that both mothers and babies become disabled, it's all individual, while some women give birth as easily as going to the toilet. The most important thing is to have good medical staff and equipped newborn care units to provide help, whether it's an episiotomy or a cesarean section, as the doctor advises. In any case, we women are very strong and can endure a lot for our babies❤️ Most often after a cesarean section, another cesarean is performed, but not always, it's better to discuss this with a doctor.

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Julia 1y7m

?Филана?, I had a similar experience. In the ward, some who had a C-section were already running around, while I was lying down on the bed in tears (the beds in the maternity hospital are high).

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Фериде 42

I gave birth to my first daughter by C-section. Yes, it was painful, but I recovered afterward. Then I got pregnant for the second time and gave birth in the 6th month by ER. It was more painful than the C-section even though the baby was small. I experienced contractions for days. I won't even mention the women who endure tears.

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