Ugh, girls, this hemorrhoids is driving me crazy? I can't even sleep n…

Ugh, girls, this hemorrhoids is driving me crazy? I can't even sleep normally? Pain relievers don't help? Constipation from hemorrhoids, afraid to go number one ??? They came out after childbirth ? What to do I don't know, I can't go see a proctologist, there's relief candles, relief advance, anesthetic. Why they don't work I don't understand ?